In what seemed like a day, my social media feeds started to fill with quotes from Rachel Hollis. Quotes like “Someone else’s opinion of you is none of your business” and “Stop waiting on someone else to fix your life.” Then, I heard Rachel Hollis on an Instagram livestream speaking to Beachbody coaches and, as I heard her words, words I had previously only seen written, I knew I had to pick up her book. At first wary of what appeared be an impending Journey in the Personal Development of Yours Truly (I mean, who has time for internal reflections between a full-time job, friends, family and keeping up with the Kardashians?!) , I hit “buy” on my kindle and I am so glad I did.
If you’re reading and you still have no idea who or what I’m talking about, Girl, Wash Your Face is the #1 New York Times Bestseller by Rachel Hollis that encourages women to lean into their whole self and pursue their dreams. In her book, Rachel points out lies she told herself that stood in her way of becoming the best version of herself. She shares lies we call all can relate to – “I’m Not a Good Mom,” “I Should be Further Along Than Now,” and “Something Else Will Make Me Happy.” Ultimately, she uses these lies to show her readers that she’s been there and, through her lived experiences, she can gift them a few tools to help them join her in a place of true happiness.
I’m not trying to write a review or dissect Rachel’s book chapter by chapter, but rather I hope this blog post will inspire a few of you to give it a read. Give it a read not because you will immediately be flaming with desire to become the first female president (or maybe you will and that’s great!), but because it is a starting point. It is a starting point for some real get-out-of-your-bed, stop-scrolling-Instagram-feeds-all-day kind of self reflection. Rachel demands that you find time for you and your dreams, that you push past the lies and limitations we all sometimes use to justify not going after what we want most, and that you make things happen with hard work and, yes, some “please will you help me with the kids/house/dogs, etc.” help from our friends.
This message, which resonates through the whole book, is the reason I think Girl is a must read. In this time of twin toddlerhood, I admit I am beyond guilty of complaining, whining, yelling and not being the best version of myself at work or at home sometimes because I just feel like I have lost control entirely. I do the things that my body needs – I eat well, I exercise before the kids wake everyday – but once the twins wake up at 6:30 AM, my mood and activities are completely shaped by the needs and wants of my kids, coworkers, and husband. Rachel’s guidance throughout Girl, Wash Your Face has helped me discover happiness can and should be a most hours of the day thing, that one hour a day of control and pure “me time” is no way to get by. She has encouraged me to envision my day differently, see the things I am thankful for, and create my own happiness by embracing the chaos that is being a working mom of twin toddlers.
Does that mean I’ve done a complete 360 and have found happiness in every single day? No, not at all. At this point, it’s maybe a few times a week, but I’m working on it. And that is what will define my happiness in the future – being the best me I can be FOR ME! It’s a process, not a destination, that requires being honest and kind to myself through the chaos and calendars of being a modern-day mama of twins and a full-time job. This is also why I ask that you – fellow mama, independent woman, and faithful friend – to give this book a read. It’s been my starting point and I hope it can be yours too. This world needs more women to embrace their true selves. And to embrace our true selves, we have to start defining it for ourselves without letting anyone else define it for us.